Hey! How's it going? Great I hope, since today is the first day of the rest of your life. Each day lived is best lived to it's fullest, as if were your last. Eat when hungry, sleep when tired, and make love often. I have two favorite quotes, "I take requests, not orders." and "If I want a boss, I'll hire one and it probably won't be you."
I don't think anyone should try to be in control of another. Life is full of choices. And yet many people are stuck in a rut. They are afraid of trying to rectify the situation, it might be worse. It might be better. How are we to know unless we face our fears and really live. Let go! Live! Not just survive. I can understand the reason so many people stay stuck in a rut. I've been there, done that. When I finally decided this is bull! I refuse to live like this. Then I changed my life. It takes a lot of courage to take a stand and do what needs to be done. I had to learn how to think, to stop being afraid that it might be worse than it already was. I had been married 17 years, and had 2 kids. What if they don't like it there? What if I can't make it there? There was no turning back. They adjusted, they liked it. I didn't fall on my face, I did a lot of growing up, learned many things and I'm better for it. Fear cannot be allowed to rule. So make a stand. The most we have to lose is being stuck in the familiar. You know, new things are good. Stop being so static. When things stay static, they die. People lose hope, then give up, then they die. They get depressed because they can't seem to change things, make things better. Depression is anger turned inward. You're angry with yourself because of your seeming inability to do anything about the anger you bear another, whether it's a person, god, or even the universe. You feel as if you're just a plaything, maybe a pawn in some celestial chess game. Baby, it's more than that. You are a free agent, to do as you will. It's your choice, please think about it. Don't you choose what foods you like? Whom you will marry? Except where there are still arranged marriages. And even then, they often choose to love the person they're with. You choose to keep faith with your mate, or to roam. You choose to be honest, or to be a liar. To learn or to stagnate. Life is all about choices, and learning to utilize those choices. Learn to use your choices wisely. Life is like a chess game, but someone has to make the first move.
Where is the fun in staying still all the time. We must be constantly in motion, just as energy is in motion ceaselessly. This isn't to say that we can't settle down. We can, just don't settle for less than you want. Learn to think in a structured manner. Learn to be grounded and centered. Stop letting your emotions lead you. Lead your emotions, use them for constructive intent.
Learn to talk to yourself, about anything that you want. Learn to listen to what you are saying to yourself. The answers are there.
I haven't yet learned all I need to learn. I love learning. It's probably one of the reasons I have so many interests. I'm not afraid of taking a chance. Never mind the consequences...nothing ventured, nothing gained. And since I don't come with ownership papers, I can come and go as I please. Adventure awaits me, it's out there with my name on it. Ye gods! The fun is awaiting. LOL
Seize the day and enjoy!